Phantasiis

When relationships require distance.

Have you seen the waves of a beach disappear in the horizon before sunrise? I remember seeing the tide go beyond my eyes in the beaches of San Felipe. I haven’t seen it elsewhere, just yet. It is something to experience at least once.

Eventually as the sun starts rising so does the tide. The waves slowly but surely start taking over their place in the beach. Until it recovers the surface it had the day before.

Just like the tide that comes and goes every day, I believe that having distance between the person you love is something to cultivate. I tend to do this when my mood and energy are not there, and when I’m not at my best either.

This can be go wrong if you decide to act without notice. I recommend to let your loved one know that you need space or express that you will be distant. Remind them that you love them and that this is temporary.

Saying the above is not easy, and requires practice. Sometimes you might get into an isolated state, closing your world to others. If you are intuitive and have an affinity for introspection, you will notice it.

I know that my tendency to create is when emotions are at their peak. This is when I use music or writing as a cathartic release.

As someone who craves solitude to refuel creativity, having those moments of distance helps me process things. Thinking about what brought me to seek time alone to begin with brings clarity.

I should mention that seeking distance or space should not be a way to avoid things that must be talked about or worked on. Rather, a healthy pause to think and observe ourselves. I enjoy having conversations and tend to dislike arguments as style of conversation.

We all have different types of communication, and my prefered ones are being calm despite the difficulty of the topics. The goal is to seek understanding from both parties. Both of you need to be willing to hear the other’s perspective.

If only one side is willing to understand, the other will not consider any idea different than theirs. Making this a futile one-sided conversation. You know that there is always at least two sides on every story.

Distance is okay. For me it’s necessary. Remember that you will be back to your good self.

The real you.